Wednesday, May 30, 2012


Right now is such a trasitional time.  Andrew and I are about to move into a new apartment (yay), but it is even more than that.  I am excited to start a new job (with orienation for the next few days), and I am excited that within the next year, I will graduate, and we will be able to focus on an even bigger transition of hopfully moving to Nashville, TN.  Right now, I am in a reflective mood, so bare with me!  Within the last few days, a friend has gotten engaged, and two people have had babies.  One of those babies was born 10 weeks early.  Thoughout my reflections, I hope the best for all three.  One is a good friend's sister who had her third child with her husband.  The one engaged is happy and seems excited for what's to come.  And the last couple are excited about the birth of their baby girl.  I am so excited for each of these precious people in my life, and hope that each finds their happiness.  Whether it is introducing their baby to their siblings, rejoicing that she has made one of the biggest and most wonderful decisions in her life, and one can't wait to hold her baby girl for the first time.  I pray that God holds each of these women close tonight, and that they know that blessings have been poured on all three.  Now what does this have to do with marriage, you might ask?  Marriage is about reflection and loving on others as well as yourselves.  That is when you know that you have a healthy marriage; when you can reflect with one another, and pour love on others together.  Love is what marriage is about.

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Things to Think About!

Wow.  It is sad how long it has been since either of us has posted!  I would like this to be a random list of insights.  It'll be worth the read, I promise.
-Figure out your sleep schedules.  As in right now, I am writing this while Andrew is asleep.  It is important to figure out who is a morning person, who is not, who hits the snooze button all the time, and who does not.  It is important to respect one another with this, so you might need to compromise (i.e. Andrew goes to the couch where he hits the snooze button 5 billion times before he gets up).
-Save money.  Open a savings account at the very least and put money aside.  For school expenses, a house in the future, and any other little thing.
-Figure out who does what around the house.  This changes all the time!  Like now I am applying for jobs and about to start summer school.  Which means I have time to clean (yay. Except not).  But someone has to do it!  Talk it over, and come up with a plan that works for both of you.
-Accept that you will not always understand each other.  Andrew might not get why I can splurge on a purse, and I will never get his need for buying Star Wars books.  Even though you don't get it, don't discourage it (unless if you buy too many purses or books).
-No matter how much you think Star Wars books will not interest you, at least set out with the idea that someday you will pick one up and read it.  I'm not sayin you need to read all of them (there are a lot more than you know), but show interest.  And not the whole "I did the minimum" thing.  He might not want to go shopping, but sometimes you want a new candle from Bath & Body Works.  It happens.  Do something for the other person!
-Discuss things.  How much to spend on gifts, how many kids, future schooling, future hobbies, future jobs, how many pets, what type of milk, what happens if we don't get the jobs we want, and on and on.  A marriage is a learning process.  So learn. 
-Are you a crier?  A shouter?  A giver of mean looks?  What do you do under stress and when you are upset?  What is acceptable in a fight?  Andrew and I do not yell. That is one main rule we have.  Figure out what your rules are.
-Plan ahead.  I know it seems too much, but think about savings accounts for your children.  For all you know, you could have twins! Plan ahead and make sure you are ready for this (or as much as you can be).
-Don't stress.  Andrew and I are most happy when we are ourselves.  Embrace yourself and each other.  It is the most important thing to remember.