The D word

You know what I think about the D word?  In a good marriage, it is a threat.  In a bad marriage, it is a way out.  Andrew and I made a lifelong committment the day we got married, and have vowed to our lives that we would never change that vow.  For sicker, poorer, old, young, happy, sad.  We made a vow to stick to one another.  I have realized that divorce is acceptable in many situations, whether abuse or a very unhealthy relationship.  But that is because the vows have already been broken!  Other than that, I don't believe growing apart.  Although I have never lost a parent or a child, or I have never got into a fight that can't be undone, I still stick to my thoughts.  Don't ever bring up that word in a good marriage.  It is a way to hurt the other, to threaten them to be better, and one thing I have learned in marriage is that you should never be a threat to the other.  You should boost them up, not tear them down.  So make sure before you get married that you are willing to keep those vows in any circumstance.  If you are married, don't stoop to that level and threaten with the word divorce.  It's dumb.

Chains

Chains do not hold a marriage together.  It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years.  ~Simone Signoret

I love this quote.  What an inspiration.  It is important to have a marriage that is not about controlling one another, but is about the freedom of being connected through the little moments.